October 21, 2008: House Preparations

31 Days to Baby Day! (35 Weeks and Four Days Pregnant)

8 Work Days Left for Dominica; House closing is tomorrow!

Today was crazy “do paperwork for the house” day.  As of today, all of the wire transfer authorizations are complete, everything is signed, everything is scheduled.  We are ready to go.  I even have the Internet access disconnect scheduled for the old apartment and the hook up ready for the new house!  Talk about being on the ball today.

The new house will be turned on by Cablevision at Wednesday morning, the 29th, while dad and aunt Sharon are there.  That will make the transition very simple.  Movers on Tuesday, Internet access on Wednesday morning, rest on Thursday (I won’t work from home since I will be reduced to a laptop on the living room floor,) Halloween party on Thursday night and then moving ourselves on Friday.

The weather was nice down here in the New York Metro today but dad said that it started snowing back home this afternoon.  They are even expecting to get an inch of snow tonight!  Hard to believe that it is time for snow back home when it is so nice here.  I am still wearing a short sleeved shirt, no t-shirt and no jacket and I walk for almost five miles each day outside.

I got home rather late this evening.  I was not hungry at all for some reason and decided to skip dinner.  Dominica was hungry so I went down to the deli downstairs and picked up dinner for her.  We watched three or four episodes of How I Met Your Mother. Then Dominica went to bed around eleven.  I was not tired at all and stayed up until almost one in the morning.

Tomorrow is going to be a very busy day.  I am “off” from work and remembered to turn on my out of office assistant so that I would not have to worry about answering emails or anything while I am busy with the house stuff.  In the morning I have to drive Dominica to work so that I will have use of the car during the day.  Then, around eleven, I have to pick her back up from work with Oreo in tow and the car loaded down with our very first load of stuff bound for the new house.  This is one of our few opportunities to move fragile and difficult to pack items to get them out of our way so that it is easier for us to continue to pack the apartment.

At one in the afternoon we have the final house inspection in Peekskill.  At a quarter after two Dominica has her appointment with her midwife, also in Peekskill.  At two thirty we have the house closing in Katonah (obviously I am going alone while Dominica is at her appointment.)  Then, after the closing, I drive back to Peekskill, pick up Dominica and we take the first load of stuff to the new house.  It is going to be a very busy day indeed.

October 20, 2008: I Have a Health Club

32 Days to Baby Day! (35 Weeks and Three Days Pregnant)

9 Work Days Left for Dominica; House closing scheduled in 1 day.

The plan today was to go swimming.  Last week I had a trial membership at New York Health and Raquet Club down on Whitehall where I swam all week.  On Friday when leaving I asked at the desk to make sure that I could just stop in today and sign up for a membership so that I could continue swimming.  I thought ahead to verify that there would not be a lapse in my accessibility to swimming because once you break the habit of going every day it is quite difficult to get it started again.

So I was very disappointed when today Dan and I walked down to NYHRC, a half mile walk each direction, to sign up and start our membership and were told, after waiting for five minutes for them to find us a sales person, that we could not sign up at that location and would have to sign up back at the office and our membership cards would be mailed to us.  That means that we wasted this walk and wasted three days of stalling on our membership since we could have started that process on Friday but instead waited until today with the assurance that that would be no problem.

I tried signing up through the office but apparently they are not willing to put me onto the corporate plan because I am a consultant.  Normally this type of benefit applies to me as well but not this time.  So I called and worked out a three month membership.  I had to pay up front but it was only so much.  Instead of paying $75 per month which I thought that I was going to get I am not paying $123 per month which is significantly more, but it is about the only reasonable way that I am going to get to swim on my lunch breaks and that is extremely valuable.  Dan joined today as well so I have someone to push me to make sure that I go every day.

Today I installed Clojure at work and wrote my first Hello, World program to test it out.  Clojure is a very cool implementation of Lisp on the Java Virtual Machine.  So you get to write Lisp but with access to Java libraries and the speed of the JVM.  It is a great mix.

Work was rather slow this evening so I left just before six and walked down to my new health club and put in an hour or more swimming.  I really did not want to skip a swimming day.  Once I start skipping then I will never get into the habit.  It was a good workout.  Going after work definitely means that there is a larger crowd than when I go around lunch time.  Not many people actually want to work out during their lunch break, I don’t think.

It was really late by the time that I got back to Newark.  Dominica came outside to walk Oreo just as I reached the building.  He was very excited to see me.  He was in such a good mood tonight.  He was not acting like a dog who had played all day at daycare – way too much energy.

We ordered in Chinese for dinner from Golden City.  We watched one episode of How I Met Your Mother.

Nadine and Clarence were excited to get the Ledig’s bed table that they gave to us several months ago.  It is designed for a queen sized bed, like we have in Newark, but once we move to Peekskill we will have our “Super King” bed back and the table won’t even begin to fit over it.

Somehow it was almost midnight by the time that we got to sleep.  What a long day.  But now I know that I will get to swim tomorrow at lunch so that is good.

So far, everything is all set with the house.  We are moving forward nicely.  We are getting pretty excited.

October 19, 2008: Packing

33 Days to Baby Day! (35 Weeks and Two Days Pregnant)

10 Work Days Left for Dominica; House closing scheduled in 2 days.

Today is our first, serious packing day.  The big goal today is to get the bookshelf in the living room completely packed up and out of the way so that we can move on to other items.  There is so much more to pack once you start actually doing it.

Our packing goes quite slowly because I have so much other work, like homework and class discussions, that need to be done that it is really hard to focus on the packing and Dominica, being very, very pregnant, can only pack for a few minutes before being exhausted.

By the end of the day we actually got quite a significant amount of packing done.  All of the bookshelves are empty or nearly so.  All of the big stuff is gone from them.  We have nine boxes completely packed and a tenth that is a good way along.  Dominica also “packed” six garbage bags full of clothes.  Those we are just going to throw into the car and drive up to Peekskill sometime when we are going up there anyway.

Ramona was planning on coming over today but we didn’t manage to make connections today.  So her plan is to come over next weekend and maybe take a ride up to Peekskill to see the new place when we make a run up there.

Other than packing, we watched several episodes of How I Met Your Mother today.  I also got paged out and worked for over three hours so that killed most of the afternoon.

October 18, 2008: Dentist Day

34 Days to Baby Day! (35 Weeks and One Day Pregnant)

10 Work Days Left for Dominica; House closing scheduled in 3 days.

It is Saturday.  The alarm went off at eight.  I was pretty tired but there is work to be done.

I logged into the office and discovered that I had received 15,600 email messages since having left the office last night.  Argh.  There has to be a better way to handle non-essential mail communications.  I never, ever receive external spam but there is so much internal junk mail that it barely makes a difference.

I did some reading on announced game releases for the Wii Virtual Console and noticed that one of my all time favourite games, Earthbound (a.k.a. Mother 2) from the Super Nintendo, has been announced.  This is one of the rare SNES games that I actually played all of the way through.  I completed in about one week of constant play.

When Earthbound first released, I bought it at Walmart in Geneseo, I played it for a few hours and then called Josh to let him know that he had to play it too.  He bought it the next day and we ended up playing a lot of the game over the phone with each other.  We both finished it in no time.  We had a ton of fun talking about the game as we played it and constantly trying to get ahead of each other in the story line.  Playing an RPG like that with someone to discuss the story with the entire way through is really cool.

There are many, old SNES RPG games that I look forward to having an opportunity to play now on the Wii Virtual Console both North American games and Japanese games that never got released to the U.S.  Games like Secret of Evermore, Chrono Trigger (which I own and completed on the SNES but would like to play again,) Breath of Fire 1 & 2 and Seiken Densetsu 3.  I’ve heard that the Mario RPG was really good and that did release for the Virtual Console recently although I am never a fan of the Mario crossover games so I will be avoiding it but Dominica might be interested.  She likes Paper Mario and other Mario-themed non-platform games.

I learned today that Square Enix is planning to release an updated version of Chrono Trigger for the Nintendo DS next month.  The new release will feature some new game area and some cut scenes from the later Sony Platstation remake.  I am looking forward to a chance to play Chrono Trigger again and hope that Squre Enix decides to make the sequel, Chrono Cross, available for the DS as well.

Dominica got up at nine this morning which was far earlier than I would have expected.  She got up and started the laundry right away and then, as soon as that was kicked off, she started assembling packing boxes so that I could begin the process of packing up everything that we have in the house.  That is our big job for this weekend.  Not our favourite thing to do.  We are so glad that we have almost nothing in this tiny apartment.

While she was making boxes I was also working on keeping Handbrake jobs running.  I have a lot that I want to get completed before we move.  I am on track for that but need to stay at it in order to be completed in time.  There is still a bit to be done.

At eleven thirty we hopped into the car and drove over to Kearny to go to the dentist.  Dominica has been to the dentist quite a bit recently – at least three or four times since we have moved to Newark and probably much more.  I, however, have not been to the dentist for six or seven years so Dominica was adamant about getting me to go now before we no longer have dental insurance.

The appointment ended up taking well over three hours!  What a long day.  The dentist was very impressed with the incredible condition of my teeth. I did get a chance to do some reading while I was stuck waiting at the dentist’s office, and I read about eighty pages in “Programming Ruby“, also known as the Pickaxe Book.

After the dentist we had to run to Walmart to pick up a packing tape dispenser.  One of the worst things about Newark is that it takes literally thirty to forty minutes just to run into the store, grap a simple item and get back out again.  That place is a mad house.  Living in this area means that even the simplest, most trivial task is stressful, expensive and time consuming.

We were starving by the time that all of this was over so we drove to the IHOP by UMDNJ and had dinner (or breakfast, who can tell.)  It was after four in the afternoon by the time that we were able to have our first meal of the day.

We got home around five thirty and I set about doing some more work for the office.  It wasn’t long before Dominica decided that she was really tired and went to bed to take a long, serious nap.  Oreo, of course, joined her and the two slept the evening away.  This worked out well because it gave me an opportunity to focus on my RIT homework which is due tomorrow.  I managed to get all of my work done for class so that all that I have to do tomorrow is to continue to participate in the class discussions.

I also managed to do some packing as well as some dishes.  The kitchen is really a mess.  It is impossible to keep up with it at all.

Today, Dominica and I read a really good article in Family Circle magazine in which they interviewed two researchers from Harvard who were looking into the social ramifications of video games on children today.  They had some numbers that were, of course, completely obvious to people who actually play video games but that people who don’t always seem to be surprised by.  The first, of course, is that as violence in video games has increased the rate of violent crimes from children has decreased.  While there is some loose evidence to show that violence in movies may contribute to violent behaviour the same has not been estabished with video games and would contradict the established data.

The article also discussed what video game “triggers” should be watched for that may indicate children with social issues.  The most important one is that children who play excessive amount of video games is fine.  There is no direct corellation between extreme video game usage and social issues.  What should be watched for are children who are neglecting other areas.  If video games are a substitute for homework, social interaction, etc. then the issue might be avoidance but interest in and use of video games on their own is not known to be a sign of a problem.

The two warning signs for which parents should be on the look out are either: girls who play more than fifteen hours per week of extremely violent games and boys who play little to no video games at all.  Either of these two warning signs may indicate that a child is likely to be experiencing some level of social issue.  Of course, a girl enjoying GTA4 or a boy who just loves to read does not necessarily mean that there is a problem, but it is a simply an indicator used to determine that a subject may need more careful observation.  Boys who do not play any games, for example, are often missing key social interaction elements which are important to development.

In the article, there was one set of parents discussing how they use video games as a “treat” for good behaviour but, quite obviously, did not see video games as a legitimate form of entertainment and limited the use of all video games to just one hour for each weekend day and none at all during the week.  This might seem great but there are several underlying problems here that I would like to address.

The first is that it seems very unlikely that the time away from video games is used for anything other than television.  This is not necessarily so but in most households this is the norm.  The message being sent to the children (and to me the reader) here is that the parents would prefer the children to be mindless zombies watching passively provided “entertainment” that requires no thinking or interaction over engaging, interactive content from a video game that involves thinking, planning and involvement.

The second problem that I have has to do with the time limits set on the game play.  The parents in the article didn’t allow game play of over one hour and almost always limited a single game to just thirty minutes.  This is crazy.  Anyone who has ever worked in an intensive intellectual profession such as engineering, IT, writing, science, etc., etc. knows that to get “in the zone” or really deeply into the problem that it requires 20 – 30 minutes just for your brain to engage in this manner.  This applies to students doing homework as well or writing a serious paper.  The first hour is often lost as the worker or student simply strives to get their brain deeply into the problem at hand.

By limited video game play to time frames too short to allow the brain to engage deeply one necessarily limits the value of gameplay to shallow thinking, reflex oriented games.  At best puzzle games can be played but, more likely, mindless, reflex driven first person shooters, heavily on violence and short on literary value, become the norm.  The value that other children glean from the mental intensity of many video games is sacrificed to make them of little greater value than just watching television.

The shorter time frames imposed by such time limits also rule out the use, at all, of truly engaging and mind strengthening games such as Age of Empires or chess because these games often last hours requiring every ounce of mental capacity be expended.  Children who are never allowed to let their brain engage in this way will see video games as a time killing enterprise or an attempt to be able to “seem normal” but will not take advantage of the mental training that other children receive.  Most often, though, they will never even attempt hard and challenging games because they will never be allowed to complete a serious game.  The very value that normal parents would want their children to get from gaming is exactly what is being denied.

Beyond forbidding a lack of game depth and challenge, such extreme game play limits also turn classic literary games such as Final Fantasy VII (the game that taught gamers how to cry) or Dragon Quest VIII (possibly my favourite game of all time) into two to four years challenges.  This means that the necessarily investment into a game of any seriousness may be so great that the children would never seek to attempt it since the investment in a single game is so high.  They might lost six months just determining that the game is too hard, too easy or not interesting.

Such extreme limits cause children to see the gaming time as very different from the valuable experiences of which gamers usually speak.  It is almost exactly like taking away all strategy and literary games and only allowing children to have four quarters at the neighbourhood arcade.  The only games that can be played are mindles, violent drivel.

October 17, 2008: Wrapping Up My Week of Swimming

35 Days to Baby Day! (35 Weeks Pregnant)

10 Work Days Left for Dominica; House closing scheduled in 4 days.

“I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among men the greatest asset I possess. The way to develop the best that is in a man is by appreciation and encouragement.” – Charles Schwab

Only two weeks to go until we are into the “baby could come any day” zone.  Sure the baby could arrive any day already but the “official baby window” starts in about two to three weeks.  Once we are in that window the baby has a pretty good likelihood of arriving at any moment.  We should just be done moving when we enter “the window.”

The weather is much nicer today.  An actual autumn day.  I got up as Dominica was leaving to go to work so that I could get ready and head into the office.  I spent a little bit of time before leaving just checking my emails and getting Handbrake set up to run throughout the day.

On the ride in this morning I began reading the classic 1936 “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.  It is quite the classic.

I had a busy morning and was very excited when one o’clock rolled around and it was time to head to the gym.  I am feeling really good today.  I am really loving this whole gym thing.  I needed a locker lock and Dan needed to buy some goggles so we took a “quick” one and a half mile detour on foot up to Modell’s to pick up our supplies before heading south to the gym at Battery Park.

I got a really good workout today.  The gym was a little busier than I have seen it other days so I was “stuck” in the fast lane with multiple people swimming so that we had to do traditional circular swimming which makes it far less easy to take a break between laps.  That pushed me to do more than I might have done had I been there on my own.  It was a good workout and I am looking forward to Monday.  On Monday I am intending to officially join the gym.  This week was a free trial.

I spoke to Katie today.  She has open enrollment at the gym starting November 1st so she is planning to get a membership as well and will be swimming with me from time to time.  I am not sure if Dan is going to be able to join the club or not but he really likes it there and wants to use that has his health club.  Overall we were really impressed with the club all week.  The people there are great.

Lunch was a gigantic salad from a shop down near the gym.  Yummy.

No sooner was I back to the office and only halfway through my giant salad than I was grabbed to head down to the chocolate shop for hot chocolates to celebrate the chaning of the seasons.  I got quite the extensive walking done today.  This has to be a record day for me of late.

I worked at the office until seven thirty.  I had originally thought that I was going to be done rather early but one deployment took a really long time and I needed to stay to take care of it.  So it was pretty late when I started walking to the PATH station.

There are not too many more times that I need to make this walk to the PATH station.  There are only two more weeks of me living in New Jersey and in those two weeks I will only be taking the PATH about five more time.  That is weird to think about.

I got home around nine. Dominica is doing a ton of cooking tonight.  She made peanut butter and chocolate brownies, BBQ Tofu over chinese noodles and harvest apple salads with apple cider dressing.  Quite a delicious dinner.  (Don’t worry, the Chinese noodles were not actually made in China.)

We finished watching the second season of The Fresh Prince of Bel Air while we ate.  Then we turned on the Wii.  I wanted to race Dominica in Mario Kart Wii, but she did not have the energy.  So we played around with the Wii shopping system and bought the first episode of the new Strong Bad game (of Homestar Runner fame.)  We also found that one of my all time favourite Super Nintendo games, Secret of Mana, is now available for the Wii Virtual Console.  I am very excited about this.

The Mana game series is a gaiden, or side story, of Final Fantasy that originally appeared for the Game Boy under the name Final Fantasy Adventure (a.k.a. Seiken Densetsu) in 1991. I bought this original Final Fantasy Adventure on the Game Boy when it first released and was one of my favourite Game Boy titles and one of the rare games that I actually played all of the way through.

I bought Secret of Mana in 1994 shortly after its release in North America.  It was one of the games that I took to college with me.  I did not have a television or computer at college that first year and all that I had was my Super Nintendo and a 13″ monitor on which to play it.  Secret of Mana was my favourite game at the time.  It was a really great game and I am very excited to be able to play it on the Virtual Console.

I am encouraged that Secret of Mana is now out for the VC.  This is the first, serious RPG to be released for the Virtual Console and I am hopeful that with enough interest from the gaming community that more will follow.  So far the only games available on the VC have been silly action games and puzzle games in which I am not interested.  There have been a few Nintendo 64 games that were interesting but very, very few.  The Super Nintendo, being one of the great classic RPG platforms along with the original Playstation, has an amazing catalogue of awesome titles that have the potential to be released but thus far have all but been ignored.  I am excited to potentially see games that were previously Japan-only releases such as Seiken Densetsu 3 or Mother 3 (a.k.a. EarthBound 2.)

I have to work early tomorrow morning.  Eight o’clock as usual.  Then, at noon, I have a dentist appointment and Dominica has one at one thirty.  Other than that, it is a packing day for us.