October 19, 2008: Packing

33 Days to Baby Day! (35 Weeks and Two Days Pregnant)

10 Work Days Left for Dominica; House closing scheduled in 2 days.

Today is our first, serious packing day.  The big goal today is to get the bookshelf in the living room completely packed up and out of the way so that we can move on to other items.  There is so much more to pack once you start actually doing it.

Our packing goes quite slowly because I have so much other work, like homework and class discussions, that need to be done that it is really hard to focus on the packing and Dominica, being very, very pregnant, can only pack for a few minutes before being exhausted.

By the end of the day we actually got quite a significant amount of packing done.  All of the bookshelves are empty or nearly so.  All of the big stuff is gone from them.  We have nine boxes completely packed and a tenth that is a good way along.  Dominica also “packed” six garbage bags full of clothes.  Those we are just going to throw into the car and drive up to Peekskill sometime when we are going up there anyway.

Ramona was planning on coming over today but we didn’t manage to make connections today.  So her plan is to come over next weekend and maybe take a ride up to Peekskill to see the new place when we make a run up there.

Other than packing, we watched several episodes of How I Met Your Mother today.  I also got paged out and worked for over three hours so that killed most of the afternoon.

October 18, 2008: Dentist Day

34 Days to Baby Day! (35 Weeks and One Day Pregnant)

10 Work Days Left for Dominica; House closing scheduled in 3 days.

It is Saturday.  The alarm went off at eight.  I was pretty tired but there is work to be done.

I logged into the office and discovered that I had received 15,600 email messages since having left the office last night.  Argh.  There has to be a better way to handle non-essential mail communications.  I never, ever receive external spam but there is so much internal junk mail that it barely makes a difference.

I did some reading on announced game releases for the Wii Virtual Console and noticed that one of my all time favourite games, Earthbound (a.k.a. Mother 2) from the Super Nintendo, has been announced.  This is one of the rare SNES games that I actually played all of the way through.  I completed in about one week of constant play.

When Earthbound first released, I bought it at Walmart in Geneseo, I played it for a few hours and then called Josh to let him know that he had to play it too.  He bought it the next day and we ended up playing a lot of the game over the phone with each other.  We both finished it in no time.  We had a ton of fun talking about the game as we played it and constantly trying to get ahead of each other in the story line.  Playing an RPG like that with someone to discuss the story with the entire way through is really cool.

There are many, old SNES RPG games that I look forward to having an opportunity to play now on the Wii Virtual Console both North American games and Japanese games that never got released to the U.S.  Games like Secret of Evermore, Chrono Trigger (which I own and completed on the SNES but would like to play again,) Breath of Fire 1 & 2 and Seiken Densetsu 3.  I’ve heard that the Mario RPG was really good and that did release for the Virtual Console recently although I am never a fan of the Mario crossover games so I will be avoiding it but Dominica might be interested.  She likes Paper Mario and other Mario-themed non-platform games.

I learned today that Square Enix is planning to release an updated version of Chrono Trigger for the Nintendo DS next month.  The new release will feature some new game area and some cut scenes from the later Sony Platstation remake.  I am looking forward to a chance to play Chrono Trigger again and hope that Squre Enix decides to make the sequel, Chrono Cross, available for the DS as well.

Dominica got up at nine this morning which was far earlier than I would have expected.  She got up and started the laundry right away and then, as soon as that was kicked off, she started assembling packing boxes so that I could begin the process of packing up everything that we have in the house.  That is our big job for this weekend.  Not our favourite thing to do.  We are so glad that we have almost nothing in this tiny apartment.

While she was making boxes I was also working on keeping Handbrake jobs running.  I have a lot that I want to get completed before we move.  I am on track for that but need to stay at it in order to be completed in time.  There is still a bit to be done.

At eleven thirty we hopped into the car and drove over to Kearny to go to the dentist.  Dominica has been to the dentist quite a bit recently – at least three or four times since we have moved to Newark and probably much more.  I, however, have not been to the dentist for six or seven years so Dominica was adamant about getting me to go now before we no longer have dental insurance.

The appointment ended up taking well over three hours!  What a long day.  The dentist was very impressed with the incredible condition of my teeth. I did get a chance to do some reading while I was stuck waiting at the dentist’s office, and I read about eighty pages in “Programming Ruby“, also known as the Pickaxe Book.

After the dentist we had to run to Walmart to pick up a packing tape dispenser.  One of the worst things about Newark is that it takes literally thirty to forty minutes just to run into the store, grap a simple item and get back out again.  That place is a mad house.  Living in this area means that even the simplest, most trivial task is stressful, expensive and time consuming.

We were starving by the time that all of this was over so we drove to the IHOP by UMDNJ and had dinner (or breakfast, who can tell.)  It was after four in the afternoon by the time that we were able to have our first meal of the day.

We got home around five thirty and I set about doing some more work for the office.  It wasn’t long before Dominica decided that she was really tired and went to bed to take a long, serious nap.  Oreo, of course, joined her and the two slept the evening away.  This worked out well because it gave me an opportunity to focus on my RIT homework which is due tomorrow.  I managed to get all of my work done for class so that all that I have to do tomorrow is to continue to participate in the class discussions.

I also managed to do some packing as well as some dishes.  The kitchen is really a mess.  It is impossible to keep up with it at all.

Today, Dominica and I read a really good article in Family Circle magazine in which they interviewed two researchers from Harvard who were looking into the social ramifications of video games on children today.  They had some numbers that were, of course, completely obvious to people who actually play video games but that people who don’t always seem to be surprised by.  The first, of course, is that as violence in video games has increased the rate of violent crimes from children has decreased.  While there is some loose evidence to show that violence in movies may contribute to violent behaviour the same has not been estabished with video games and would contradict the established data.

The article also discussed what video game “triggers” should be watched for that may indicate children with social issues.  The most important one is that children who play excessive amount of video games is fine.  There is no direct corellation between extreme video game usage and social issues.  What should be watched for are children who are neglecting other areas.  If video games are a substitute for homework, social interaction, etc. then the issue might be avoidance but interest in and use of video games on their own is not known to be a sign of a problem.

The two warning signs for which parents should be on the look out are either: girls who play more than fifteen hours per week of extremely violent games and boys who play little to no video games at all.  Either of these two warning signs may indicate that a child is likely to be experiencing some level of social issue.  Of course, a girl enjoying GTA4 or a boy who just loves to read does not necessarily mean that there is a problem, but it is a simply an indicator used to determine that a subject may need more careful observation.  Boys who do not play any games, for example, are often missing key social interaction elements which are important to development.

In the article, there was one set of parents discussing how they use video games as a “treat” for good behaviour but, quite obviously, did not see video games as a legitimate form of entertainment and limited the use of all video games to just one hour for each weekend day and none at all during the week.  This might seem great but there are several underlying problems here that I would like to address.

The first is that it seems very unlikely that the time away from video games is used for anything other than television.  This is not necessarily so but in most households this is the norm.  The message being sent to the children (and to me the reader) here is that the parents would prefer the children to be mindless zombies watching passively provided “entertainment” that requires no thinking or interaction over engaging, interactive content from a video game that involves thinking, planning and involvement.

The second problem that I have has to do with the time limits set on the game play.  The parents in the article didn’t allow game play of over one hour and almost always limited a single game to just thirty minutes.  This is crazy.  Anyone who has ever worked in an intensive intellectual profession such as engineering, IT, writing, science, etc., etc. knows that to get “in the zone” or really deeply into the problem that it requires 20 – 30 minutes just for your brain to engage in this manner.  This applies to students doing homework as well or writing a serious paper.  The first hour is often lost as the worker or student simply strives to get their brain deeply into the problem at hand.

By limited video game play to time frames too short to allow the brain to engage deeply one necessarily limits the value of gameplay to shallow thinking, reflex oriented games.  At best puzzle games can be played but, more likely, mindless, reflex driven first person shooters, heavily on violence and short on literary value, become the norm.  The value that other children glean from the mental intensity of many video games is sacrificed to make them of little greater value than just watching television.

The shorter time frames imposed by such time limits also rule out the use, at all, of truly engaging and mind strengthening games such as Age of Empires or chess because these games often last hours requiring every ounce of mental capacity be expended.  Children who are never allowed to let their brain engage in this way will see video games as a time killing enterprise or an attempt to be able to “seem normal” but will not take advantage of the mental training that other children receive.  Most often, though, they will never even attempt hard and challenging games because they will never be allowed to complete a serious game.  The very value that normal parents would want their children to get from gaming is exactly what is being denied.

Beyond forbidding a lack of game depth and challenge, such extreme game play limits also turn classic literary games such as Final Fantasy VII (the game that taught gamers how to cry) or Dragon Quest VIII (possibly my favourite game of all time) into two to four years challenges.  This means that the necessarily investment into a game of any seriousness may be so great that the children would never seek to attempt it since the investment in a single game is so high.  They might lost six months just determining that the game is too hard, too easy or not interesting.

Such extreme limits cause children to see the gaming time as very different from the valuable experiences of which gamers usually speak.  It is almost exactly like taking away all strategy and literary games and only allowing children to have four quarters at the neighbourhood arcade.  The only games that can be played are mindles, violent drivel.

October 17, 2008: Wrapping Up My Week of Swimming

35 Days to Baby Day! (35 Weeks Pregnant)

10 Work Days Left for Dominica; House closing scheduled in 4 days.

“I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among men the greatest asset I possess. The way to develop the best that is in a man is by appreciation and encouragement.” – Charles Schwab

Only two weeks to go until we are into the “baby could come any day” zone.  Sure the baby could arrive any day already but the “official baby window” starts in about two to three weeks.  Once we are in that window the baby has a pretty good likelihood of arriving at any moment.  We should just be done moving when we enter “the window.”

The weather is much nicer today.  An actual autumn day.  I got up as Dominica was leaving to go to work so that I could get ready and head into the office.  I spent a little bit of time before leaving just checking my emails and getting Handbrake set up to run throughout the day.

On the ride in this morning I began reading the classic 1936 “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.  It is quite the classic.

I had a busy morning and was very excited when one o’clock rolled around and it was time to head to the gym.  I am feeling really good today.  I am really loving this whole gym thing.  I needed a locker lock and Dan needed to buy some goggles so we took a “quick” one and a half mile detour on foot up to Modell’s to pick up our supplies before heading south to the gym at Battery Park.

I got a really good workout today.  The gym was a little busier than I have seen it other days so I was “stuck” in the fast lane with multiple people swimming so that we had to do traditional circular swimming which makes it far less easy to take a break between laps.  That pushed me to do more than I might have done had I been there on my own.  It was a good workout and I am looking forward to Monday.  On Monday I am intending to officially join the gym.  This week was a free trial.

I spoke to Katie today.  She has open enrollment at the gym starting November 1st so she is planning to get a membership as well and will be swimming with me from time to time.  I am not sure if Dan is going to be able to join the club or not but he really likes it there and wants to use that has his health club.  Overall we were really impressed with the club all week.  The people there are great.

Lunch was a gigantic salad from a shop down near the gym.  Yummy.

No sooner was I back to the office and only halfway through my giant salad than I was grabbed to head down to the chocolate shop for hot chocolates to celebrate the chaning of the seasons.  I got quite the extensive walking done today.  This has to be a record day for me of late.

I worked at the office until seven thirty.  I had originally thought that I was going to be done rather early but one deployment took a really long time and I needed to stay to take care of it.  So it was pretty late when I started walking to the PATH station.

There are not too many more times that I need to make this walk to the PATH station.  There are only two more weeks of me living in New Jersey and in those two weeks I will only be taking the PATH about five more time.  That is weird to think about.

I got home around nine. Dominica is doing a ton of cooking tonight.  She made peanut butter and chocolate brownies, BBQ Tofu over chinese noodles and harvest apple salads with apple cider dressing.  Quite a delicious dinner.  (Don’t worry, the Chinese noodles were not actually made in China.)

We finished watching the second season of The Fresh Prince of Bel Air while we ate.  Then we turned on the Wii.  I wanted to race Dominica in Mario Kart Wii, but she did not have the energy.  So we played around with the Wii shopping system and bought the first episode of the new Strong Bad game (of Homestar Runner fame.)  We also found that one of my all time favourite Super Nintendo games, Secret of Mana, is now available for the Wii Virtual Console.  I am very excited about this.

The Mana game series is a gaiden, or side story, of Final Fantasy that originally appeared for the Game Boy under the name Final Fantasy Adventure (a.k.a. Seiken Densetsu) in 1991. I bought this original Final Fantasy Adventure on the Game Boy when it first released and was one of my favourite Game Boy titles and one of the rare games that I actually played all of the way through.

I bought Secret of Mana in 1994 shortly after its release in North America.  It was one of the games that I took to college with me.  I did not have a television or computer at college that first year and all that I had was my Super Nintendo and a 13″ monitor on which to play it.  Secret of Mana was my favourite game at the time.  It was a really great game and I am very excited to be able to play it on the Virtual Console.

I am encouraged that Secret of Mana is now out for the VC.  This is the first, serious RPG to be released for the Virtual Console and I am hopeful that with enough interest from the gaming community that more will follow.  So far the only games available on the VC have been silly action games and puzzle games in which I am not interested.  There have been a few Nintendo 64 games that were interesting but very, very few.  The Super Nintendo, being one of the great classic RPG platforms along with the original Playstation, has an amazing catalogue of awesome titles that have the potential to be released but thus far have all but been ignored.  I am excited to potentially see games that were previously Japan-only releases such as Seiken Densetsu 3 or Mother 3 (a.k.a. EarthBound 2.)

I have to work early tomorrow morning.  Eight o’clock as usual.  Then, at noon, I have a dentist appointment and Dominica has one at one thirty.  Other than that, it is a packing day for us.

October 16, 2008: Dinner at Chef Yu

36 Days to Baby Day! (34 Weeks and Six Days Pregnant)

11 Work Days Left for Dominica; House closing scheduled in 5 days.

“If you want to really hurt your parents…the least you can do is go into the arts. I’m not kidding.” – Kurt Vonnegut

Today is a warm and muggy day in the New York Metro area.  Thick haze and no breeze.  It is only supposed to last for today and tomorrow it should be nice again.  I am quite glad that I am not walking into the office today as it would be all sticky and uncomfortable.  (Actually, I am going into the city today but not until this evening when, hopefully, it will have cooled down considerably.)

Today, whilst doing some houseplant maintenance tasks, I discovered the source of the mysterious mushrooms that have been appearing here and there in the soil of the plants around the house.  It turns out that they are coming from the potting soil that we have.  When putting some new soil in the ivy plant I noticed mushrooms growing in the sealed back of potting soil.  That explains a lot.

For lunch today I walked over to Blimpie and got myself a cheese sub.  I ate at home alone while watching an episode of the Mary Tyler Moore Show from 1970.  Dominica was going crazy for a meal from IHOP and was unable to find anyone who would go with her today so she decided to just go on her own.

I did a little bit of cleaning today in the kitchen.  Really needed to do a lot more but there really was not any extra time today.  It was really warm too.  The humidity is so high and it hit almost eighty today.  It was so warm that even with all of the windows open and it being overcast I was literally sweating sitting at the computers in the living room.

The weather changed pretty dramatically around four in the afternoon.  The wind picked up and the clouds rolled in and the temperature dropped about ten degrees all of a sudden.  It was a nice change, for sure.

We found out today that, because of a billing accident at work, I was not paid for an entire week in my last paycheck.  Normally this would be a mostly trivial issue as our bills are all on a monthly schedule so getting paid anytime during the month is all the same, but this was the final paycheck which we were counting on to provide much needed capital for the house closing next week.  This puts just that much more strain on the whole process.  We think that we are going to be alright but this did not exactly do anything to alleviate the stress of the situation.  We also still do not know how much the final total is going to be so we are extra worried about that.  Hopefully we will find out tomorrow.

The good news for the day is that I spoke to the bank and they have received all of the necessary paperwork for the house, including the certificate of occupancy, so we are now free and clear to proceed with the house closing.  Pheww.  There is one last paper which I need to sign and send back to the bank which I am supposed to do tomorrow when I have access to a fax machine at the office.  I am hoping that there is a fax machine at the office!

I left the house just after six after having fed and walked Oreo.  I took NJ Transit into Manhattan’s Penn Station and walked north up to Chef Yu to meet some friends for dinner.  The trains were running pretty late tonight and I ended up taking much longer than I had anticipated.  It took me forty minutes to catch a train going to Manhattan!

We made it early enough to Chef Yu to make happy hour so we all had a few drinks and lots of delicious appetizers.  Dinner was okay but nothing special.  The appetizers were far better than Dominica and I normally get from Golden City in Newark but the food itself was not as good.  The vegetarian spicy dumplings were amazing.

We all headed home around nine thirty.  On my walk and ride home I managed to finished reading “Managing Humans: Biting and Humorous Tales of a Software Engineering Manager” by Michael “Rands” Lopp of Rands In Repose fame which I have been reading slowly for a while.

I also finished J. Maarten Troost’s latest book “Lost on Planet China” which was really good.  Troost is an amazing “travel writer” although he didn’t like to call himself such although with his latest book actually chronicalling his travails through the People’s Republic rather than being a story of a place in which he was living there is little that he can say to dispute the label.

By the time that I reached home Dominica and Oreo had long previously retired to bed.  So I simply set about wrapping up SGL for the day, kicking off some Handbrake jobs and getting ready for bed.

Last night I discovered that Dominica was unfamiliar with the verb “to redd”, which was an extremely common word used in the household of my childhood and one that occurs with great frequency in my inner monologue so I was rather surprised that she was unaware of its usage.  For those of my readers who are not familiar with “to redd” I will cover its usage briefly.

The most common style of usage is in the phrase “I must redd up the house.”  It means, quite literally, to make ready – as ready is a derivative of the older redd.  It generally means, in colloquial usage, to clean, to tidy, to prepare.  Redding up the house would imply that it was made ready, as in “for company”.  The usage in which I most often heard it used was not to necessarily imply cleaning but tidying and organizing – making presentable.

The word is used in both the United States and England and is an Old English word having been used for hundreds of years.  It shares a common root with words in Germanic dialects outside of English and has its largest impact for English speakers of Pennsylvania Dutch (Swiss and pre-unification Germans) decent primarily in the American midwest – which explains why it is so commonly used in my family.

October 15, 2008: New Parking at Eleven80

37 Days to Baby Day! (34 Weeks and Five Days Pregnant)

12 Work Days Left for Dominica; House closing scheduled in 6 days.

Everything is getting so close.  We are really starting to feel the pressure as we need to have everything done very, very soon.  Dominica brought home the boxes last night and the hallway is full of boxes that we need to assemble and fill with stuff.  We had no time to start the packing process last night so we are expecting to be able to start today.  Just a few boxes each day is the plan starting with the books.  Lots of books.

Dominica with 8 Month Belly

My brain got plenty of sleep but my body definitely feels the two days of swimming.  I do real laps and don’t play around in the pool so I have gotten a bit of exercise the last two days and I feel it.  We have been going to the New York Health and Racquet Club on Whitehall.  They are the only gym that we can find in the area that has a pool and a pool is what I need.  I can keep myself going to a pool day after day but using weight machines or whatever always falls apart eventually.  The pool is also much easier on your body – very unlikely to do any real damage from swimming.

Dominica discovered that HP’s 2133 mini laptop (a.k.a. NetBook) machines have dropped dramatically in price recently.  The HP2133 is extra cool because online all of the other NetBooks that I have seen, this one ships with SUSE Linux installed rather than some form of Fedora.

BluRay Players are finally becoming affordable.  The Samsung BD-P1500 is just a little over two hundred dollars now from Amazon.  Not too bad considering it was well over four hundred for most of the year for an older model.  They are getting into the range where it makes a lot of sense to get one.  If we weren’t in the process of closing on the house I would have ordered this today.  Dominica is very anxious to get a BluRay player and we have been thinking that we were going to hold off until we could just get a Sony PS3 instead but now the BluRay players are so inexpensive that getting one of those and an XBOX 360 is about the same price as the PS3 alone.

Today began another round of layoffs at the office.  I think that this is my fourth or fifth round of layoffs since starting here.  I am not concerned for myself, but I do know people who are affected again this round.  Constant layoffs are no fun.  Everyone always wonders if it will be their department next.  It happens so often that people just keep the idea of the layoffs in the back of their minds all of the time.  It is not good for moral or productivity.

Much like Eastman Kodak through the nineties.  I remember that the layoffs just came and came in waves.  It became a constant culture of layoffs with no end in sight.  It was just business as usual at Kodak after a while and that is what is happening here.  Layoff announcements don’t even invoke a response anymore as everyone forgets when they start and stop.

Oreo is feeling so much better each day.  The steroids are really doing the trick.  Of course, we don’t want to keep him on steroids all of the time as it is not healthy for him, but for the moment it is really helping him get over his horrible allergies.  It is so rough watching his life deteriorate down to nothing but scratching and scratching.  He spends all of his time doing it, and he is very unhappy.

For lunch today, three of us drove out to Pooja to get Indian buffet.  I was starving before going to lunch having skipped breakfast.  Then, of course, I ate too much at the buffet and felt like crap all afternoon.  Dumb, dumb, dumb.

I caught the express train home and Dominica managed to pick me up as I walked along Broad heading towards Eleven80.  Today was a very easy commuting day.

I was not very hungry after my big lunch and so decided to skip dinner this evening.  Dominica was so tired that she really did not want to have dinner either.  So she just had some oatmeal and vegetables.  We watched a little Fresh Prince of Bel Air and were off to bed by nine thirty!  Crazy, I know.

Tomorrow I am home with Oreo and tonight is my chance to really catch up on some sleep.  Tomorrow Dominica is working an extra hour to cover for someone at the office and so really needs her sleep tonight as working really wears her out.  Luckily it was on a Thursday that they needed her to work extra so that she didn’t have to drive Oreo to and from daycare like she normally has to do.  So in reality her day tomorrow is only marginally longer than normal.  It might actually be shorter.

We found out tonight that the Eleven80 Halloween Party has been scheduled for October 30th which is our very last night staying at Eleven80 before we move completely to Peekskill and give up the apartment.  So we might go now that we know that it is possible.  We had a really good time last year.  Oreo loves getting all dressed up for parties.

Speaking of changes at Eleven80.  We also found out that starting November 1st, there is no more valet parking at Eleven80.  Instead of using valets to park the cars under Military Park the building has worked out an agreement to allow residents to park at 1160 Raymond Blvd. in the garage directly next door to Eleven80 where they can get to and from their own cars anytime that they want.

It may not sound as nice as valet parking but I am positive that this will do wonders for the building.  Having nothing but valet service and having no space in which to operate it really does not work well.  It works better in Manhattan where you need your car only seldom but in Newark you need it far too often to always have to deal with having it taken away and brought around for you.  The new parking does cost 25% more than the old parking but personally I think that it is probably going to be well worth it.

The thing that is awful, in a way, is that the new parking scheme takes effect the instant that our lease is up.  We end at midnight, October 31st and that is when the new parking begins.  I am curious as to the logistics of moving all of those cars from Military Park’s garage which is valet access only to 1160 which requires the residents to drive from one to the other.  I wonder if anyone has thought about that yet.  That is going to be a mess!  I am SO glad that Dominica and I are not coming “home” to Eleven80 that night but driving straight to Peekskill after work.

It is just sad, though, because we were some of the most vocal opponents of the valet scheme.  It just didn’t work and caused problems no end.  The street has been a mess with cars double and triple parked, using side streets, being blocked in, getting left out all night, etc.  The valets were just starting to get into the groove, though, after two years and it has not been so bad for a while.  But the constant parking tickets and other hassles have only gotten worse.  Too bad that we will never get to park in the new garage.  That would have made living at Eleven80 much nicer.